Friends for life

I love the sound of my kids playing together… Nicely! When I was pregnant with Hudson, my greatest fear was that I was taking away Lucy’s closest friend; me. I was afraid that when Hudson was born she would resent him and also resent me for breaking up our beautiful little friendship.

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So when I hear them play together and see Lucy lead Hudson around by the hand and speak so gently to him, I am overwhelmed with joy and relief. Joy, that my children actually get along some times and relief that they still love me and I still have beautiful relationships with each of them.

Today as I was getting dressed for the day, I gave my kids some independence. Lucy is pretty much free to roam where she pleases in the house without me but Hudson is another story.  I usually need to chase him around the house dishing out “no no!” all over the place. Today, however, I decided to let him be.  The kids were playing in the play room upstairs which is set up for play and there isn’t a whole lot that they can really get into in there that would be an issue.  It was amazing.  The kids were playing so nicely in there that when I finally came down to check on them, I was told: “Mom, this is OUR special place, you can’t come in here”. Shockingly, they were both in one piece and sitting together in their circus tent reading books.  Today was a milestone for my Hudson. He’s turning in to a little kid. Not the baby who needs constant attention but the little boy who needs space to explore.

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It’s hard to recognize when we as parents cross the line from being their protector to being a little too protective. I struggle with letting go a lot. I know they need room to explore and learn about their world but I also worry so much that they’ll get hurt by something or someone.  I am just so grateful that they will always have each other. I hope they will always be close and be there for each other throughout their lives. We’ll see.

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Let me follow up by saying that I realize my 15 month old still needs to be watched like a hawk.  At this moment he is standing ON my kitchen table looking down at me as I type. I’m just saying that with a clingy kid like Hudson, a little space (when I know he’s in a safe environment) is healthy for both of us!

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